Sexual Abuse Recovery Coaching

If you've found your way to this page, that took courage. Many people who have experienced sexual abuse never search for help at all, not because they don't need it, but because the thought of addressing it feels too overwhelming. Too exposing. Too unsafe.

So if you're here, reading this, you've already taken a significant step. You don't need to be ready to talk about what happened. You don't need to have the words for it. You just need to know that healing is possible, and that I have walked this path before you.

The Lasting Impact of Sexual Abuse

Sexual abuse changes how you relate to yourself, to others, and to the world around you. Its effects reach far beyond the events themselves, often shaping your life in ways you may not fully recognize.

It affects your sense of safety. When your boundaries were violated, especially by someone who was supposed to protect you, the nervous system learns that the world is not safe. That learning doesn't go away when the abuse ends. It stays in the body, influencing how you handle every relationship.

It affects your sense of worth. Sexual abuse often carries a deep, irrational shame, a sense of being damaged, dirty, or fundamentally flawed. That shame doesn't belong to you. It never did. But it can feel so embedded that it's hard to tell where the shame ends and you begin.

It affects your ability to trust. Trust in others, trust in yourself, trust in your own perceptions. Many survivors second-guess their own reality, minimize what happened, or blame themselves for things that were never their fault.

How It Shows Up

The effects of sexual abuse don't always present in obvious ways. For many people, they run beneath the surface.

You feel disconnected from your body. Numb, uncomfortable in your own skin, or for some, unable to be fully present during physical intimacy.

You struggle with boundaries. Either you can't set them, or you've built walls so high that genuine closeness isn't possible.

You feel shame. As if it were your fault. You feel as if you're "too much" or "not enough."

You're hypervigilant. Always scanning for danger, reading people's intentions, preparing for the worst. Unable to let go and trust you are safe.

You minimize what happened. Telling yourself it wasn't that bad, that others had it worse, that you should be over it by now.

You feel triggered by things that seem unrelated. A touch, a smell, a tone of voice, a feeling of being trapped or powerless.

There are real reasons why sexual abuse is one of the hardest things to seek help for.

The shame around it is enormous. Many survivors have never told anyone what happened, or if they have, the response wasn't what they needed. The fear of being disbelieved, judged, or re-traumatized keeps people silent for years, sometimes decades. I'm well aware of the grief you carry, which most people who have not experienced this trauma can never really understand.

There's also a fear of having to relive the experience in order to heal from it. The thought of going back to those memories can feel unbearable.

That fear is completely understandable. And it's important to know that healing does not require you to relive your trauma. There are safe, gentle approaches that can heal the negative impact of what happened without reliving it or re-traumatizing you. You will gain freedom from the shame and guilt.

How I Help?

I'm Gail Mae. I've spent over 15 years helping people heal from trauma, including the deep, complex wounds of sexual abuse. This work requires tremendous care, and I approach it with the safety, gentleness, and respect it demands. I am a survivor of father/daughter incest, and I struggled with finding freedom from the shame for years. It's part of why I studied the techniques I use: to gain freedom and to help others do the same.

My primary technique is EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), sometimes called Tapping. EFT allows us to process trauma by tapping through the emotional layers to heal the nervous system and the stored response in the brain. By tapping on the body's meridian points as we work through emotions, beliefs, and stored responses, we neutralize the emotional charge from the trauma without overwhelming your system. 

I also use Matrix Reimprinting, which is particularly valuable for trauma recovery. It allows you to keep any memory at a safe distance, without reliving it, and gives your younger self what they needed at the time: safety, protection, comfort, a voice. Any trauma held in your subconscious no longer affects you. You see that you were never the problem. You can let go of the old belief tied to the trauma and learn the truth. It's about freeing your nervous system from being trapped and in the freeze response.

When we work together, nothing is forced or rushed. You will never be asked to share more than you're comfortable with. And you will be met with complete compassion, without judgment, every step of the way.