A Client Struggling With Procrastination In Her Business
Recently, I worked with a client who was struggling with procrastination in her business. For privacy, I’ll call her Michelle.
During our tapping session, an early childhood memory surfaced—she was around three or four years old, happily making mud pies in the backyard with her puppy, Poppy, a playful chocolate lab who thought mud was just as wonderful as she did.
Michelle remembered the joy of squishing the soft mud between her fingers, shaping her “pies,” and leaving them to bake in the sun. Excited, she decided to show her mom her creations, certain that her mom would be just as delighted. With Poppy at her side, she carried her mud pies into the kitchen, unaware that she was tracking mud across the freshly mopped floor.
Her mother, already stressed and overwhelmed, reacted sharply. She yelled at Michelle, losing her patience. The little girl froze in fear and confusion. Just moments before, she’d been filled with joy and pride—now she felt terrified and ashamed. She didn’t understand that her mother’s reaction had little to do with her and everything to do with the worries already weighing on her. In that instant, Michelle formed the belief: “I’m bad.”
As we tapped through this memory, we released its many layers—fear, guilt, confusion, and the deep-seated belief (I'm bad) that had been buried in her subconscious since childhood. Using TMR (Transformative Memory Repatterning), with EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), we revisited the scene from a place of compassion and understanding. Michelle was able to see her mother’s frustration for what it was: an expression of her own stress, not a reflection of Michelle’s worth.
By allowing young Michelle to express everything she couldn't back then, she was able to forgive both her mother and herself. She released the old belief that she was “bad” and replaced it with a new truth—that she was a good girl and worthy of love and of having fun.
That single memory had influenced her adult life, showing up as procrastination and self-sabotage in her business. Like many of us, she had internalized a childhood belief that blocked her from moving forward freely. Once it was transformed, she felt lighter, more focused, and able to take confident action in growing her business. This is how Imposter Syndrome starts, mostly in our childhood.
When trauma or emotional overwhelm occurs—whether major or seemingly small—it often gets stored in the subconscious because, as children, we don’t yet have the resources to process it. These buried experiences shape how we see ourselves and what we believe we deserve. Healing them allows us to live from truth instead of fear.
Not every painful event is traumatic, but trauma typically involves what’s called a UDIN: an Unexpected, Dramatic Incident with No resources. Even a single event like Michelle’s can leave a lasting imprint, while repeated experiences of anger, criticism, abuse, or neglect can have more profound effects, sometimes leading to anxiety, depression, or complex PTSD.
Fortunately, modalities like EFT and TMR provide gentle, effective ways to access the subconscious and heal at the root level—body, mind, and spirit. No matter how loving our upbringing, we’ve all had moments that left emotional imprints. When these memories are met with effective epigenetic tools together with compassion and understanding, they lose their power to define us.
If you recognize patterns like procrastination, self-doubt, or perfectionism that keep repeating, it may be your subconscious calling for healing. With these powerful epigenetic techniques, you can free yourself from the past and reconnect with the truth of who you are—whole, capable, and free.
