A Client Struggling With Procrastination In Her Business
Recently, I worked with a client who was struggling with procrastination in her business. For privacy, I’ll call her Michelle.
During our tapping session, an early childhood memory surfaced—she was around three or four years old, cheerfully making mud pies in the backyard with her puppy, Poppy, a playful chocolate lab who thought mud was just as wonderful as she did.
Michelle remembered how much she enjoyed making mud pies when she was four years old. She loved the feel of the mud as she squished it between her fingers and as she shaped her “pies" and left them out in the sun to bake.
Her chocolate lab puppy, Poppy, loved mud too!
She was so excited about what she had created; she wanted to show her mom, certain that her mom would be just as delighted. With Poppy at her side, she carried her mud pies into the kitchen, unaware that she was tracking mud across the freshly mopped floor.
Her mother, already stressed and overwhelmed, reacted sharply. She yelled at Michelle, losing her patience.
Michelle, NOOOO! I just mopped and cleaned everything! Couldn't you have asked me to come outside instead of tracking this mess in here? Come on!
Michelle froze in fear. She thought Mom would love her pies as much as she did. Mom had never reacted like this before, so it was a shock.
Moments before, she’d been filled with joy — now, her eyes were wide with fear, her heart raced, and she was speechless. She was terrified. She couldn't conceive at that age that her mother’s reaction had little to do with her and everything to do with the worries that were weighing on her.
In that instant, Michelle formed the belief: “I’m bad.”
As we tapped through all the different aspects of this memory, we released the traumatic layers of shock, fear, confusion, guilt, and the belief “I’m bad” that had been held deep within her psyche since childhood.
After clearing all the negative aspects of the memory using TMR (Transformative Memory Repatterning), with EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Michelle was able to see her mother’s frustration for what it was: an expression of her own stress, not a reflection of Michelle’s worth.
By allowing young Michelle to express everything she couldn't back then, she was able to forgive both her mother and herself. She felt free to release the old belief that she was “bad” and replaced it with a new truth—that she was a good girl and worthy of love and of having fun.
That memory had influenced her adult life, showing up as procrastination and self-sabotage in her business. Like many of us, she had internalized a childhood belief that blocked her from moving forward freely. Once it was transformed, she felt lighter, more focused, and able to take confident action in growing her business. This is how Imposter Syndrome starts, mostly in our childhood.
When trauma occurs, in childhood—whether major or seemingly small—it gets stored in the subconscious because, as children, we don’t yet have the resources to process it. These buried experiences are also trapped in our body because we are body, mind, and spirit. You cannot separate these three aspects within us.
These traumas shape how we see ourselves and what we believe we deserve. Healing them allows us to live from truth instead of fear.
Not every painful event is traumatic, but trauma typically involves what’s called a UDIN: an Unexpected, Dramatic Incident with No resources. The word trauma comes from the ancient Greek word for a physical wound. Nowadays, it includes emotional and psychological wounds. Even a single event like Michelle’s can leave an imprint, while repeated experiences of anger, criticism, abuse, or neglect can have more profound effects, leading to anxiety, depression, disease, and complex PTSD.
Fortunately, modalities like EFT and TMR provide gentle, effective ways to access the subconscious and heal at the root level—body, mind, and spirit.
No matter how loving our upbringing, we’ve all had some trauma that left emotional imprints. When these memories are met with effective epigenetic tools together with compassion and understanding, they lose their power to define us.
If you recognize recurring patterns like procrastination, self-doubt, or perfectionism, it's a red flag letting you know that healing is needed.
With these effective epigenetic techniques, you can free yourself from the past and reconnect with the truth of who you are—whole, capable, and free.
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Overcoming Procrastination with EFT-Tapping
