Tap 5 to 7 times gently on each point with your fingertips (there are meridian energy points on the ends of your fingers, too!). Use your index and middle finger on your dominant hand or hands as you say each statement.
You can use both hands on the Top of the Head, Eye Brows, Side of the Eyes, Under the Eyes, Collar Bones and Under the Arms. You can switch from one hand to two, whatever feels comfortable. As long as you are tapping on the points, it really doesn’t matter if you are using one hand or two. It’s just as effective either way.
1. Tune Into The Problem
Look at what issue you want to tap on. Be aware of any physical symptoms you may be having in regard to your issue such as tension, pain, butterflies in the stomach, nausea, feeling scared, angry or sad. Notice where it is in your body. You may also be aware of your limiting beliefs or negative thoughts that are getting in the way of your overcoming this issue.
2. The Assessment
Rate the intensity of your problem on a scale of 0-10, with 10 being the worst. Remember that in EFT we have to tap on the negative first until the negative issue is down to about 4 or below on the a scale of 1 to 10, before you bring in any positive statements or reframes.
You’ll notice that I will ask in the script questions such as “What if?” and “Maybe it’s possible?”. Your mind may answer “Nope, not possible” or “Hmm, maybe it is possible”. If your mind is still saying, “Nope it’s not possible” or “I can’t imagine it would ever be possible” etc. Then that is telling you that you need to do more tapping on the negative feeling until the number goes down to a 4 or below.
It doesn’t matter how many rounds you do on the negative, it will eventually go down. Sometimes you will still feel uncomfortable and that may be because another feeling or aspect has come up while the first one went down. That is time to start tapping on that new negative emotion and bring that down and so forth.
3. The Setup
Now tap the Karate Chop Point (KC) while repeating 3 times the setup phrase: “Even though ____________ (the problem), I accept myself deeply and completely.”
4. The Sequence
Decide on a phrase which reminds you of the problem and tap on the sequence of points, repeating the reminder phrase. Below is a sample script for you to use. It includes 5 rounds of tapping.
Disclaimer
Please be aware if you have big T -Trauma, it is possible the tapping can open up very deep feelings that you may have buried in your subconscious when you experienced the trauma. If this happens to you, please find a skilled practitioner or a therapist experienced in trauma to help you heal from this. Also remember to tap any scary feelings down, use the statements: I am fine, everything is going to be okay, I am here in this room and my feet are planted firmly on the ground. Open your eyes if you have them closed and take deep full breaths as you tap. Look around the room observing all you see around you.
Cravings Tapping Script 2
The Setup:
KC : (Karate Chop Point: Even though I really, really, really want to eat ……………, and I know I may regret it, I am open to accepting myself anyway.
KC: Even though I know that eating………………might make me feel better for a bit but I’ll feel worse afterwards, I want it anyway, I need it, it will make me feel better and I am open to accepting myself in spite of these conflicting feelings.
KC: Even though I am sick and tired of not being able to control what I eat when I get stressed, I am open to accepting myself, having patience with myself, no matter what.
Round 1
TH: (Top of the Head): I need it
EB: ( Eye Brow) I really need it
SE (Side of the Eye) I know I will feel better
UE: (Under the Eye): I have to have it
UN: (Under the Nose): I have to have it
CP: (Chin Point): I want it
CB: (Collar Bone Point): It tastes so good
UA: (Under the Arm): It is so crunchy and crisp (put in your own words, your own cravings)
WP: (Wrist Point): So deliciously salty (or whatever, perhaps sweet?)
KC: So yummy and delicious
Round 2
TH: I want it
EB: It will make me feel better
SE: I need the comfort
UE: I need the comfort
UN: It’s just one bag of chips…………….. ( or whatever number, put in your own craving)
CB: I’ll do better tomorrow
UA: I’ll just have one now
WP: I know I’ll feel better
KC: I deserve to feel good
Round 3
TH: No I won’t feel better
EB: I’ll hate myself for eating it
SE: Why do I have these cravings?
UE: I don’t care
UN: I just really want it
CP: I just want it
CB: And I want it now
UA: I need it now
WP: No, I don’t need it
KC: I just want it
Round 4
TH: I just want it
EB: Fine, I want it now, what about after?
SE: How will I feel after?
UE: Is it worth it?
UN: That quick fix?
CP: How will I feel about myself after?
CB: Will I feel disgusted with myself?
UA: Will I hate myself?
WP: I don’t want to do that to myself
KC: Maybe I’m worth more than that
Take a deep breath and check in with your problem; how do you feel about it now? Check in with your body. How is your level of stress? What is the number between 1 and 10 now? Did it go down at all? Hopefully it did, even a little is good. You may feel emotional, you may want to yawn, cough or sneeze. You may feel unusual body sensations. This is all normal and natural as you are moving stuck energy. Just keep tapping and you will feel better.
Round 5
TH: What if I could do something kind to myself?
EB: Instead of eating junk or just eating too much?
SE: What else could I do to get more comfort for myself?
UN: What if I could choose to do something kind for myself?
CP: What if I could be kinder to myself?
CB: I am open to that
UA: I am open to being more kind and loving to myself
WP: Love and kindness never hurt anyone
KC: Maybe I could have a soak in the bath or go for a walk, or reach out to a friend? (or whatever you like to do to de-stress and relax)
Round 6
TH: What if I could exercise a little bit more? Those “feel-good” chemicals (endorphins) are released when I exercise.
EB: What if I could actually enjoy exercising and look forward to it?
SE: Anything is possible
UE: What if that were possible for me?
UN: I might meet some like-minded people where I exercise
CP: I might even get to like the effects of it on my body
CB: Maybe it’s possible I’ll enjoy feeling healthier and stronger
UA: Maybe I’ll have more respect for myself
WP: What if these cravings are just a part of myself trying to keep me safe by numbing my pain out?
KC: I wonder if the antidote to that is more love and compassion for the scared/hurt parts within me?
Take another deep breath and check in with your feelings and rate the number between 1 and 10. If it is still above a 4 you need to tap some more on the above rounds. If your stress went down to a 4 or below you could go to the next rounds.
Round 7
TH: I’m giving myself permission to be kinder to myself
EB: What if I could be forgiving with myself just a little bit more?
SE: What if I could be softer with myself?
UE: What if I could be gentler with myself?
UN: I am open to that
CP: What if I could love myself even though I have these cravings?
CB: I’m open to choosing to accept myself no matter what
UA: What if I could refuse to beat myself up anymore?
WP: What if “discipline” is a loving word
KC: I’m choosing to see that “discipline” is a loving word
Round 8
TH: What if I could let go my perfectionist standards a bit?
EB: What if I could be forgiving with myself just a little bit more?
SE: What if I could be softer with myself?
UE: What if I could be gentler with myself?
UN: I am open to that
CP: I am open to being gentler and more compassionate with myself
CB: What if I could feel more calm and relaxed no matter what is going on in my life?
UA: What if I could refuse to beat myself up anymore?
WP: I’m open to that
KC: What if I could love myself a little bit more every day?
